5 Ways to Begin Healing From Your Past
Regardless of whether you were bullied, physically attached, emotionally abused, sexually assaulted, or chronically neglected, the pain of childhood trauma can sting for decades after the original incidents.
Childhood trauma and other issues from our past generate negative emotions, and leave large impressions within us. Unless we process these emotions at the time the trauma occurs, they become stuck in our mind and body.
In short, the body, heart, and mind remember the old trauma.
Instead of healing from the event, the trauma stays in our body as energy in our unconscious, affecting our life until we uncover it and process it out.
The good news is that, for many people, the resulting effects of your traumas can be worked through. Even if your brain does wire itself a little differently because of the core wounding, it is not impossible. With a healthy flow of processing through distressing emotions, such as anger, sadness, shame, and fear, healing from childhood trauma can begin.
1. Self-Regulation and Stress Reduction Techniques – learn simple techniques of mindful breathing, relaxation, and distress tolerance skills to cope with anxiety, depression, and negative emotions. Learn simple meditation or yoga – whatever you choose make sure it brings you relief and you enjoy it.
2. Sleep – trauma survivors often struggle with an inability to sleep or stay asleep. However, managing your sleep routine and habits is crucial for your emotional healing and trauma recovery. Sleep needs vary with age, but generally speaking, the average adult needs between seven and nine hours per night.
3. Break Bad Habits - Bad habits can be hard to break, especially when they’re used as crutches to help you avoid reliving the pain and trauma of your childhood. Bad habits can take many forms, like negativity and always mistrusting others, or turning to alcohol or drugs when feelings become too hard to bear. Acknowledge bad habits and find constructive positive habits to take their place.
4. Be Patient - when dealing with past pain out-of-control emotions like, hopelessness, defense mechanisms and warped perceptions are difficult to let go of. It will take a lot of time and hard work to let go of these feelings. Be patient and honor progress, no matter how small it may seem.
5. Seek Counseling and Support - A natural instinct when dealing with past pain is to withdraw from others, but this can only make things worse. A big part of the healing process is connecting to other people and getting advice from trusted professionals. Black Girls Heal offers an online course that focuses on helping women of color heal from the effects of unresolved childhood traumas - difficulties with boundaries, self-doubt, anxiety, self-esteem issues, toxic relationships. To find out how to enroll click here.